Life is full of ups and downs that adults ride with little to no problem. As grown-ups, we understand that there are peaks and troughs in happiness and we understand how to manage a stressful situation – for the most part, anyway! The people around us who do not understand how to manage stress, are children.
One of the most important jobs for a parent is to ensure that their children stay secure, safe and happy. That often means little in the way of change, upheaval and upset. The thing is, upheaval is a natural thing in life. We change jobs after several interviews and take the change in hours in our stride. We call a specialized moving company to help us organise a house move and we take those changes without any issue. But while we’re there being okay with all the changes that we’ve made, we don’t consider how our new hours in the new job impact the kids. We don’t consider the upheaval that moving to a new house would have on the children, knowing that we know what is best for them and that they’d soon adjust. Making our children feel secure should be a priority and we’ve put together five things you can do to do just that.
- Give Your Time. Children don’t need lots of gadgets and the latest and greatest toy to be made happy. They just need time to wrestle and listen to stories and play with you. They want your attention and affection and to know that you are open to listening to everything they need.
- Reassure Them. we’ve mentioned changes to do with moving and changing jobs. Moving to a new house with children is a stressful business, and while they will eventually adapt, you have to put in the time reassuring them that everything is going to be okay and the move won’t change anything except their bedroom.
- Listen To Them. Children have a lot to say, even when it may sound like a lot of random information. What they have to tell you is important to put down whatever it is you’re doing and turn your full attention onto them, let them know that what they have to say is important.
- Be There. Life is busy and sometimes that means not being at home until late and leaving the house quite early. When you get the chance for some time off, take the time to be with the kids and listen to the things that they have to say to you. Spend time just in the same room enjoying their energy and be consistent with your presence. They need to know that when you leave for the day, you’ll always come back.
Secure children are happy, confident children who understand that they are loved and cared for. if you make the effort to ensure they are feeling secure, then any changes made in life can be taken in their stride.
*This post was contributed. Family friendly post are welcome.